tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post1435200131322887348..comments2023-12-24T06:06:51.548+08:00Comments on Shin's Cancer Blog: How to ReactShinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12174401097883054144noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-47251793354160347972008-05-29T14:49:00.000+08:002008-05-29T14:49:00.000+08:00Was thinking about this again today, as I encounte...Was thinking about this again today, as I encountered another blog that asked a similar question.<BR/><BR/>I think your post has pretty much covered all bases.<BR/><BR/>The only thing I'd add is that - give the cancer patient a lot of space to run through their range of thoughts and emotions if they do choose to share them. Without judgement or pity, hopefully. People sometimes need to go through the bad bits before they get out. Being judged or pitied for being "less than strong or inspiring" is an extra burden they don't need.ALI KATIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11582101774304130162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-22720031079145104992008-05-24T18:09:00.000+08:002008-05-24T18:09:00.000+08:00Hi Shin, Thanks for answering my question. I guess...Hi Shin, <BR/>Thanks for answering my question. I guess the bottomline is to just let the friend know that you're there and you care. Sometimes it's tough knowing where to draw the line between being helpful and being a nuisance.<BR/><BR/>Am away at the moment. Won't get to see you on Sunday. Look forward to hearing your thoughts about the film though. <BR/><BR/>LynnLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01307196776683497864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-59944136603484228172008-05-22T13:42:00.000+08:002008-05-22T13:42:00.000+08:00I think we have a mutual friend in the one whsoe d...I think we have a mutual friend in the one whsoe daughter has just been diagnosed with leukemia. I had coffee with her this morning and coincidentally we were talking about things people say when your child is diagnosed with a life threatening medical condition......although my child doesn't have cancer it is as R said, same same but different.<BR/>Anyway, we came up with some classics that we have both heard.........<BR/><BR/>You have been given this as you are strong enough to deal with it. <BR/><BR/>It has happened for a reason.<BR/><BR/>Gosh, you are coping so well.....I would be devastated if it happened to me.<BR/><BR/>We've decided we should write a book about the things people say! <BR/><BR/>Big hugs my lovely<BR/>SashaxxxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-10978377863774325082008-05-22T11:23:00.000+08:002008-05-22T11:23:00.000+08:00Dear MAM,I'm not quite sure what you meant, but ma...Dear MAM,<BR/><BR/>I'm not quite sure what you meant, but maybe my screen shows something different from yours, since I'm on a Mac and not a PC?<BR/><BR/>FYI - When you post a comment on my blog, it will not immediately appear on the site. Your comment will be sent to my e-mail Inbox. If I publish it, your comment appears on the site. If I reject it, your comment does not appear on the site. <BR/><BR/>I try to check my e-mail several times a day but I may not get to your comment right away, so it might take some time before your comment appears on the site. <BR/><BR/>I hope this clarifies things a bit.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your comments and questions. I think they're quite helpful to me and other readers of this blog.Shinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174401097883054144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-45461682756000737142008-05-22T09:02:00.000+08:002008-05-22T09:02:00.000+08:00Shin,I have noticed that when I click the "Publish...Shin,<BR/><BR/>I have noticed that when I click the "Publish this comment" button under the Preview section, the message, "Your blog has been saved....." does not appear at the top of the page. The message appears only when I click the button where the message is first entered.<BR/><BR/>I had thought that my comments were rejected but I think you may not have received them at all.<BR/><BR/>MAMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-79986632902730560972008-05-22T08:53:00.000+08:002008-05-22T08:53:00.000+08:00I definitely agree that there isn't any standard a...I definitely agree that there isn't any standard answer. Besides going through phases, a cancer patient can also have mood swings.<BR/><BR/>One certainly should not impose their views on a cancer patient. You do not automatically know better and become stronger than the person who has cancer.<BR/><BR/>I think being sincere goes a long<BR/>way. Even if you have said the wrong thing, the cancer patient can sense it because they too do not always know what to say.<BR/><BR/>MAMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com