tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post5196167586128880542..comments2023-12-24T06:06:51.548+08:00Comments on Shin's Cancer Blog: Jekyll and HydeShinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12174401097883054144noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-26334115784222823372008-11-11T22:41:00.000+08:002008-11-11T22:41:00.000+08:00Hi Shin.You know, on this Jekyll and Hyde thing......Hi Shin.<BR/><BR/>You know, on this Jekyll and Hyde thing... it set me thinking about all the assumptions I have about you after watching the Chinese documentary. <BR/><BR/>Reading your blog the next day created more fairytale assumptions on your "greatness". Gosh, you must be the strongest woman on earth, or so I thought. As I move through your postings, I realise, you are human after all. <BR/><BR/>I must admit I was at zero-productivity that work day as I reflected on what is happening in here, what goes on in your thoughts. Just don't tell my boss. <BR/><BR/>But I have to tell you, if there were any reasons why I am following your blog, it is your love for your children and how it set me thinking how much more I could love mine and SHOW them I really do. If there were any reason why I feel regretful after reading your blog, it was for your children and how my heart aches at the thought of putting my kids in the same position. If there is no miracle cure for you, I hope there is time enough for the children to plant deep rooted memories of you. If there were anything I'd like to hope for you other than a cure, I hope the transition of your death (if and when it happens) will be easier for your children. <BR/><BR/>It set me thinking that I should finally quit some unhealthy habits to reduce that chance of letting the same happen to my kids. <BR/><BR/>Hang on, I know you are trying hard now. For those children of yours with big round expressive eyes. Hang on to the thought that they need you, draw more strength from it, use this thought to pull yourself up should you ever feel lousy. <BR/><BR/>Happy happy birthday in advance!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-85144886428457343052008-11-10T17:33:00.000+08:002008-11-10T17:33:00.000+08:00Hi Shin.I watched the documentary about you, and I...Hi Shin.<BR/><BR/>I watched the documentary about you, and I cried as I was very, very touched. You are fantastic, you are very very strong. I am glad to "know" you through this program, to learn from you (just in case I am diagnosed with cancer some day). For now, I will use your story to share with friends who need some encouragement and who have missed this show. You are great! You have two lovely kids and a wonderful hubby. I will drop by your blog again to wish you a happy birthday on the 12th Nov.<BR/>I am especially touched by this answer you gave - you think it's better that you have the illness, rather than anyone else you know, because you can handle it. Keep it up and I sincerely wish you and your family well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-81761438567705554612008-11-10T10:10:00.000+08:002008-11-10T10:10:00.000+08:00Dear Shin, When I first saw you with a cute little...Dear Shin, <BR/><BR/>When I first saw you with a cute little girl in the Starbucks at Siglap, I admired you! I was sitting beside you and I saw that you were enjoying your breakfast and had a wonderful time chatting with the little girl. <BR/>Shin, you amazed me! Just wanted to say take care and God bless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-1320809455009336662008-11-09T23:52:00.000+08:002008-11-09T23:52:00.000+08:00Yorksun,"Confident" is one way to put it! : ) Mos...Yorksun,<BR/><BR/>"Confident" is one way to put it! : ) Most people would say arrogant. Anyway, thanks for putting a positive spin on it!Shinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174401097883054144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-84932185523865134992008-11-09T23:50:00.000+08:002008-11-09T23:50:00.000+08:00You do have your faults, or perhaps "spice", but n...You do have your faults, or perhaps "spice", but no one is perfect. I feel that you are a good mother though. You are also very confident.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-26928355030105728102008-11-08T15:32:00.000+08:002008-11-08T15:32:00.000+08:00Anu,Thanks for posting your comment on my blog. I...Anu,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for posting your comment on my blog. I'd like readers to see that there are other cancer survivors like you, and caregivers like Eric out there who add to the understanding and wisdom of all of us. <BR/><BR/>You and the other ladies from the BCF Dragon Boat Team have taught me so much. You're a remarkable group of women. I'm really lucky that I got to meet you and paddle with you, even if it was for only a year. I hope to be back out on the water with you some day. <BR/><BR/>By the way... I'd always wanted to try Dragon Boat Racing, ever since I first laid eyes on a Dragon Boat in Hong Kong over ten years ago. But it wasn't until I was diagnosed with cancer that I actually gave it a try. I'm glad I did.Shinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174401097883054144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-53504065641089728882008-11-08T14:22:00.000+08:002008-11-08T14:22:00.000+08:00Hi ShinLike all others who knew about the show, I ...Hi Shin<BR/><BR/>Like all others who knew about the show, I too watched it with my hubby, Eric.<BR/><BR/>Eric identified with your remarks, that it is more difficult for the people you leave behind, (Tony to deal with Josie and Toby when you are gone). He nodded his head and quietly uttered 'yes'. He did not say anything to me. But I know the pain that he too went through when he became a widower at 39 with two children, aged 11 and 14. That road was a trying one without their mother.<BR/><BR/>But in today's era of modern technology, it is heart warming to know that both Josie and Toby are able to know more about you through the blog as well as through all the little momentoes that you have lovingly cared to do and leave behind for their discovery later on in their lives.<BR/><BR/>My admiration goes out to Tony for being so forthright and candid on TV. <BR/><BR/>As for you, Shin no words can describe you. You have been so so honest about your character and faults and opinions, that none of us can even claim to be one 'iota' (not sure of spelling) of you.<BR/><BR/>I guess that's life. It is difficult to say what we feel to everybody. We can do that with some very very close friends, but by and large, I think we will be embarrassed to say what's in our head to all in general.<BR/><BR/>So I have learned some things from your blog. That is, be happy that I can be truly honest with just these handful of friends. That to me is an achievement.<BR/><BR/>Warm regards<BR/>Anu ChiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-75201492556255240022008-11-08T11:08:00.000+08:002008-11-08T11:08:00.000+08:00Anonymous,I'm not quite sure I understood you corr...Anonymous,<BR/><BR/>I'm not quite sure I understood you correctly, but I think you said that your father won't allow you to join a Chinese class? And this is due to something your English teacher said?<BR/><BR/>My guess is, your father is concerned that you will fall behind in your English. Perhaps he's so confident in your talent in the Chinese language that he thinks it better for you to concentrate on something that you're not as proficient in?<BR/><BR/>Whatever the reason, I'm positive that he's thinking about what's best for you. I know that's what all adults say, and I heard it plenty while I was growing up (I was always fighting with my parents.) But now I realize that no matter what we fought about, my parents always tried to do what they thought was best for me. <BR/><BR/>Maybe you can make a deal with your father: If you can improve your marks in English class, he'll allow you to join the Chinese class?<BR/><BR/>Let me know what happens. I'd like to hear from you again.Shinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174401097883054144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-2230059623820364372008-11-08T10:17:00.000+08:002008-11-08T10:17:00.000+08:00hi shin i think you are so very wonderfulwhen you ...hi shin i think you are so very wonderful<BR/>when you have a cancer and then you can handle your family so well!<BR/>i'm not a mum<BR/>i'm just a little girl <BR/>and i have some question .<BR/>you know i like chinese alot !<BR/>and my dad say he would let me join the higher mother tounge at first <BR/>and then when he saw the remarks my teacher gave me he banned me from going there <BR/>i was the first in the class for chinese<BR/>just because my english teacher says that to me he don't let me join it anymore!<BR/>and some more i got the best score on the chinese exam !<BR/>i like chinese alot ! <BR/>it is my best language ever <BR/>i love it as a chinese<BR/>why don't he let me join it i hate him!<BR/>i wonder why must we have a word like dad or daddy and papa<BR/>i hate all those word<BR/>and thank you shin your blog is so very wonderful!<BR/>ps:i feel better after pouring out all this to you shin!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-37881326978398573982008-11-08T05:03:00.000+08:002008-11-08T05:03:00.000+08:00This post made me smile because of the truth behin...This post made me smile because of the truth behind it and I thought I’d add to it.<BR/><BR/>You’ve been a close friend for many years so I think I can say I know you well enough to comment. You have made me laugh along the way but I’ve also shed some tears too. I’ve been angered by your quick words but I’ve also been touched to the core by your kindness.<BR/>They say if you truly love someone you’ve got to love the good and the bad, because both run through us all and I know you are loved by many.<BR/><BR/>Can any of us really say we go through this life without anger or bad thoughts?<BR/>To do that we would be saying this is a perfect world and I am the best person I could possibly be. We know this is not a perfect world, far from it and we should never stop trying to better ourselves. Show me the perfect person!<BR/><BR/>I think it’s all about balance and your goodness outweighs the badness and you see your faults and acknowledge them. <BR/><BR/>I understand the admiration you are getting from people but I also know you well enough to know that you’re doing it this way to leave something special behind for Josie and Toby. This battle hasn’t been about you for a long time, it’s been about them and you’re doing a great job....despite your faults :)<BR/><BR/>Love you XX<BR/>From one of those damn pet owners.<BR/><BR/>BTW I still put all my correspondence to you through the spell check :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-58860163398593063272008-11-08T02:35:00.000+08:002008-11-08T02:35:00.000+08:00You are writing a story of your life. Filled with...You are writing a story of your life. Filled with the struggles of an ordinary being going through something extraordinary. Whether it is a story of victory or tragedy will depend on you.<BR/><BR/>Well, you definitely have us cheering for you. <BR/><BR/>More useful sites to add on to your blog. :-)<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://health.msn.com/health-topics/cancer/slideshow.aspx?cp-documentid=100199917>1=31025" REL="nofollow">Cancer</A><BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://www.chemotherapy.com/side_effects/side_effects.jsp" REL="nofollow">Chemotherapy Side-effects</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-2667618470080994052008-11-08T01:40:00.000+08:002008-11-08T01:40:00.000+08:00Well, at least you apologised! :DWell, at least you apologised! <BR/><BR/>:DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-28299554506334240612008-11-08T01:39:00.000+08:002008-11-08T01:39:00.000+08:00Hello Shin!Well, everyone's imperfect. We can be ...Hello Shin!<BR/><BR/>Well, everyone's imperfect. We can be oh-so-great in front of people, yet bitchy inside. Human beings just need to get wacky and crazy at times. And, judging by the comments people send you, you should feel happy that many people have learnt many things from you even though you might not know them.<BR/><BR/>Cheers,<BR/> : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-57556387865123856122008-11-08T01:29:00.000+08:002008-11-08T01:29:00.000+08:00Hi Shin.Thanks for letting us know the real you. ...Hi Shin.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for letting us know the real you. I appreciate your forwardness. I think it's important for anybody to know that nothing or nobody is perfect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-58037480624968681822008-11-08T01:08:00.000+08:002008-11-08T01:08:00.000+08:00Hi Shin.Everyone has weaknesses, shortcomings, fau...Hi Shin.<BR/><BR/>Everyone has weaknesses, shortcomings, faults. You don't have to doubt or feel undeserving of all the praise. I believe everyone knows you are not 100% perfect, but we see the strong, optimistic, positive part of you. <BR/><BR/>And it's great that you have a positive impact on those who are going through sadness, depression, etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-12680586550132389012008-11-08T00:35:00.000+08:002008-11-08T00:35:00.000+08:00Anonymous,Thank you for your spirited defense, but...Anonymous,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your spirited defense, but I really don't think Dee's intention was to be hurtful. I think she (he?) had valid points to make. <BR/><BR/>In fact, I respect the fact that she spoke her mind, knowing that other readers would probably disagree with her. So, no pity on the dying lady. I appreciate her honesty.Shinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174401097883054144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-59638121285968573872008-11-08T00:27:00.000+08:002008-11-08T00:27:00.000+08:00Shin, I felt sorry for you when I read those thoug...Shin, <BR/><BR/>I felt sorry for you when I read those thoughtless and hurtful comments which I thought were cruel. I thought of asking you not to publish them because I understand that you mean for this blog to be read by your children in the future. But on the other hand, I feel that you were very tactful in handling such people, which I hope will show your children, when reading this in the future, that their mother was a person of GRACE who could take criticism. <BR/><BR/>I sincerely hope that your children, when reading this, can learn about your bravery, optimism and strength. Hope you are not affected by those types of comments because I am sure those are people who may simply be jealous of your strength and the love you have from so many people (be it from cyberspace or in real life) :P. <BR/><BR/>Yes, you are right that there are many courageous fighters who are just not being filmed. No matter what, you have CERTAINLY MOVED, TOUCHED, MOTIVATED, CHANGED many people IN A POSITIVE WAY!!! I'D LIKE TO SAY A BIG BIG THANKS AND NEVER GIVE UP OK?! : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-7359035030136859802008-11-08T00:16:00.000+08:002008-11-08T00:16:00.000+08:00Hi Shin! I am touched by your determination and co...Hi Shin! <BR/><BR/>I am touched by your determination and courage. I am a breast cancer patient too. I believe we still hang on because of the love from our loved ones. So do not give up; let's JiaYou and continue to fight this battle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-49158713637658514392008-11-08T00:12:00.000+08:002008-11-08T00:12:00.000+08:00Hi Shin, My name is Lina. Nice to know you. I lear...Hi Shin, <BR/><BR/>My name is Lina. Nice to know you. I learned about you on last Tuesday's interview on Channel 8.<BR/><BR/>Happy belated birthday.<BR/><BR/>I hope God will give you the best time as you wish.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-63460839454282038432008-11-08T00:11:00.000+08:002008-11-08T00:11:00.000+08:00Hi Shin.It's me, Connie, the psoriasis patient her...Hi Shin.<BR/><BR/>It's me, Connie, the psoriasis patient here. I just read your new blog post. As a human being, no one in this world is pure perfect. <BR/><BR/>Like me - maybe due to my illness, I didn't have a presentable outlook just a few days ago when I was on my way back home waiting for the bus. Suddenly, a lady asked me loudly, "Hey miss! Are you having AIDS?" ("Do you have AIDS?") I said no and stood far away from her. Then she came to me again and said, "Hey! I'm sure you are AIDS lah! Why you still come out? You should go for doctor or stay alone don't come out!" By that time I really couldn't control my temper anymore and I replied to her, "Hey aunty! You have family too better not to insult or people this way! Who knows might be one day you family will get sick more serious than me!" I didn't want to yell but somehow I couldn't control it!<BR/><BR/>Shin, everyone has a temper; it's just that we don't show it if not provoked by some issue. But what I really admire about you is you are more sick than I am and you are still so positive-thinking. I'm not trying to flatter you at all.<BR/><BR/>You know what? I'm really scared my skin will get dry and my whole body will be paralyzed, or if not, I will feel a lot of pain or my skin will burst and bleed on some part of my body. I know how a patient feels as I am one!<BR/><BR/>Shin! I'm sure you will have many moments to feel upset. Just to let yourself be angry will make a sick person more sick. Here, I'll share with you an idea. Hope you will like it!<BR/><BR/>(E)-Emotion control<BR/>(N)-Nutrition<BR/>(E)-Exercise<BR/>(W)-Water<BR/>(S)-Sun<BR/>(T)-Temperance<BR/>(A)-Air<BR/>(R)-Rest<BR/>(T)-Trust<BR/><BR/>Wish you have a good day!<BR/><BR/>Regards,<BR/>ConnieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-59687055719377717692008-11-08T00:10:00.000+08:002008-11-08T00:10:00.000+08:00Writerinresidence,Consider yourself in good compan...Writerinresidence,<BR/><BR/>Consider yourself in good company. I don't know ANYONE who enjoyed working with me. <BR/><BR/>But four of my former bosses and many of my former colleagues are now close friends. I've kept in touch with some of them for over fifteen years.<BR/><BR/>Another funny thing... I think I was also lousy as a girlfriend, but almost every guy I've every gone out with is now a good friend. I've kept in touch with many of them for over ten or fifteen years.<BR/><BR/>I guess that means I'm okay as long as you don't have to work with me or go out with me. Poor Tony... he kinda has to do both.Shinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174401097883054144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-12375181734054036212008-11-07T23:29:00.000+08:002008-11-07T23:29:00.000+08:00Shin, I laughed a whole lot reading this entry. Be...Shin, I laughed a whole lot reading this entry. Because what you say here is all true. LOL. Working with you almost drove me crazy. <BR/><BR/>Nevertheless, ultimately, I sensed the goodness beneath all of that stuff, and that's why, even after all these years, I still feel warmly towards you - and it's not because you have cancer. One thing's for sure...you will never be boring!<BR/><BR/>I have a good friend who also doesn't believe in God. She used to say to me, "Pray to your God for me, ok?" Want you to know that for what it's worth, I'm always doing that for you.<BR/><BR/>Always keep the laughs. NAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-33763066538420403042008-11-07T22:53:00.000+08:002008-11-07T22:53:00.000+08:00Hi Shin.You don't have to deliberately conjure up ...Hi Shin.<BR/><BR/>You don't have to deliberately conjure up all Mr. Hyde traits to prove there's this other side to you.<BR/><BR/>It's ok to be called an idol, a role model or an inspiration. Some people draw strength from others' heroism. And through their heroes, become better people.<BR/><BR/>Who knows, the people who have used those words to describe you could well be spreading the values they've learnt through the program and through your blog.<BR/><BR/>So please bear with the flattery while we go out and try to make this world a better place through lessons we learnt from Shin.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-76268251159339021112008-11-07T22:45:00.000+08:002008-11-07T22:45:00.000+08:00Anonymous,I'll try to answer your questions but wi...Anonymous,<BR/><BR/>I'll try to answer your questions but will have to be brief.<BR/><BR/>1) What would you have done or achieved in these last three years if you did not have cancer?<BR/><BR/>Not much. I would've spent more time with my kids and maybe gotten a part-time job. <BR/><BR/>2) Did cancer change you for the better? Did it bring out the best in you? <BR/><BR/>I don't think cancer has changed me much. I've talked about this a number of times in my past posts. <BR/><BR/>3) Would the Shin with cancer be any different from a healthy Shin?<BR/><BR/>Just physically. A healthy Shin would've chased the neighborhood kids around the playground in a ghost costume this Halloween. The Shin with cancer couldn't even make it out to the playground.<BR/><BR/>4) Would this blog and the many wonderful praises about you exist if you didn't have cancer?<BR/><BR/>No. If I didn't have cancer, I'd be just another ordinary person.<BR/><BR/>5) Do you think it happened for a reason?<BR/><BR/>No.Shinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174401097883054144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650979411395789660.post-37474385641434610002008-11-07T22:37:00.000+08:002008-11-07T22:37:00.000+08:00What would you have done or achieved in these last...What would you have done or achieved in these last three years if you did not have cancer?<BR/><BR/>Did cancer change you for the better? Did it bring out the best in you? <BR/><BR/>Would the Shin with cancer be any different from a healthy Shin?<BR/><BR/>Would this blog and the many wonderful praises about you exist if you didn't have cancer?<BR/><BR/>Do you think it happened for a reason?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com