Wednesday, January 28, 2009

For a lover of words

I really liked this poem from Ali Kati. Shin loved words and I'm sure would have appreciated these.

Tony

- the title should link to it, if not try pasting this: http://alikati.blogspot.com/2009/01/tribute-my-first-walk-in-2009.html

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Tony, we do support as much as we support you and Josie and Toby. I am sure you are a great husband to Shin and will be as great father to Josie and Toby which Shin has entrusted to you. Hope you will be strong and do allow yourself a period of grief but stay strong, ok?

Anonymous said...

Hi Tony

I am so sad to here about Shin's passing. Trust me I know how you fee right now. I lost my daughter to cancer and its a tough road we follow. Here is a poem I read at my daughters funeral that I hope you might appreciate

Very Best Regards

Sean

Don't think of her as gone away
Her journey's just begun
Life holds so many facets
This earth is only one
Just think of her as resting
From the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days and years
Think how she must be wishing
That we could know today
How nothing but our sadness
Can really pass away
And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost
And she was loved so much

Paula said...

I am so sorry about your wife/mother. We lost our mom to this beast 10/8/2008. She had her cancer in pretty much every place Shin did. When first diagnosed, she did NOT have it in the lymph nodes or anything. He shoulder started hurting, and that is the part of the bone she had it in. She was diagnosed with it in her liver, lungs, shoulder, and hip.
A year later the brain (5 spots, 2 size of dimes, 2 quarters). We lost her a month later after they did a gamma knife procedure to try to reduce the brain tumors. We know she is in a better place, however every day is a struggle and memories are sometimes hard...because they make us sad. Best of luck to you and your children and all she leaves behind-The suffering, which was the worst part, is over and she is at peace. Paula in Minnesota

zorop said...

..for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part."

Tony, you have a great wife and you have kept your words. What can I say? You are great too! Take care and continue this blog altar.

chris said...

Im truly very sad to know that Shin has passed on. She has been really wonderful and a strong lady right to the very last hours.

I prayed that all her friends and families will continue to be strong.

My deepest condolences.
Chris

A quote from Elizabeth K Ross.


*Selected Quotes* by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation,
a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.

After your death, when most of you for the first time realize what life here is all about, you will begin to see that your life here is almost nothing but the sum total of every choice you have made during every moment of your life. Your thoughts, which you are responsible for, are as real as your deeds.
You will begin to realize that every word and every deed affects your life and has also touched thousands of lives.

We run after values that, at death, become zero. At the end of your life, nobody asks you how many degrees you have, or how many mansions you built, or how many Mercedes you could afford.
That’s what dying patients teach you.

Throughout life, we get clues that remind us of the direction we are supposed to be headed. If you stay focused, then you learn your lessons. When you learn your lessons, the pain goes away.

There is no joy without hardship. If not for death, would we appreciate life?
If not for hate, would we know the ultimate goal is love? ? At these moments you can either holds on to negativity and look for blame, or you can choose to heal and keep on loving.

We make progress in society only if we stop cursing and complaining about its shortcomings and have the courage to do something about them.

When we have passed the tests we are sent to Earth to learn, we are allowed to graduate.
We are allowed to shed our body, which imprisons our souls.

Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose....

You will not grow if you sit in a beautiful flower garden, but you will grow if you are sick, if you are in pain, if you experience losses, and if you do not put your head in the sand, but take the pain as a gift to
you with a very, very specific purpose.

It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only
one we had.

Death is simply a shedding of the physical body like the butterfly shedding its cocoon. It is a transition to a higher state of consciousness where you continue to perceive, to understand, to laugh, and to be able to grow.

There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.

We are solely responsible for our choices, our life and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.

The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.

Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion of death.

Mankind's greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.

There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace. You will find that deep place of silence right in your room.

What you are is God’s gift to you. What you make of yourself is your gift to God. We should be motivated by our own sense of possibility…by our own sense of accomplishments…by what we believe we can become.

At every step along the way, your soul will be tested. Every test you pass will make you stronger

Sometimes there are consequences to staying true to what you believe. But as long as you understand the consequences, you are not only stronger as a result; you’re more at peace.


------- End.

Shin, Singapore said...

Dearest Josie & Toby,

Reading your mom's blog makes me (and some of my friends that read her blog too)want to do more with our lives. As you will eventually read and find out, that she loves the family dearly and has prepared 'future parenting' materials. So at any point in life, when you feel lost, when you feel the urge to give up or simply when you are unsure of the road ahead, think of what mom would do.

Tony - You are lucky to have shared a life with fiesty Shin! We wish the best for you and the kids.

Love,
Shin (we share the same name)

Shin, Singapore said...

Dearest Josie & Toby,

Reading your mom's blog makes me (and some of my friends that read her blog too)want to do more with our lives. As you will eventually read and find out, that she loves the family dearly and has prepared 'future parenting' materials. So at any point in life, when you feel lost, when you feel the urge to give up or simply when you are unsure of the road ahead, think of what mom would do.

Tony - You are lucky to have shared a life with fiesty Shin! We wish the best for you and the kids.

Love,
Shin (we share the same name)

Anonymous said...

Hi Tony, I am sure Shin feels very lucky and no regrets to marry to you and without you (and the kids), her life may not be as happy as she would be. You can "transfer" (or spread) your love for Shin not only to Josie and Toby but also all those who in need, just like the way Shin does and never stop giving and spreading her love and concern and help till the last moments and even after her death! Her live may be short but she has done more than most would in their entire (long) lives and she has and will continue to impact positively in many (cyberly) and in reality (through her donating of her body,etc)...Josie and Toby, do remember that though your mother is not with you all but she has left a lot of "assets" to you and all of us and hope that when you all grow up, both of you can inherit what your mother (&father) loving and caring nature and spread your love to others too. Your mother is a very genuine and caring and brave and positive and .......the list goes on....:)